First impression lasts, as commonly said. This is why we all have that pressure of giving out a great first impression of ourselves to every new person we meet. To someone who is socially conscious, situations like this can put undue stress to one’s ego. Molly, the tutor from the video “Tips on How to Overcome Shyness that May Cause You Blushing,” shows how you can employ healthy ways to conquer the intense emotions surrounding the pressure of speaking in uncomfortable situations that may cause blushing.
Shine the spotlight to the person you’re speaking with, Molly suggests. Ask a lot of questions and direct the air of attention to that person. In that way, you give yourself a chance to warm up and adjust to the unfamiliar situation to prevent the embarrassment that would cause you to blush.
Molly explains how important it is that you like yourself. Know yourself inside and out and learn how you can introduce yourself to others with confidence. Don’t try to impress. It’s not a healthy way to go. There’s no other way to create a good impression than introducing yourself with confidence. Overcoming blushing problems is very possible and Jim Baker’s book “Blushing Breakthrough” will help you learn how. You can also visit http://www.blushingbreakthrough.com to learn more about how to stop blushing.
Do people think it’s weird to see someone act nervous and blush for no apparent reason? Maybe you’ve been misjudging other’s reactions for years. Learning a little about ANTS or automatic negative thoughts can help you to understand more about this.
Since blushing is instantaneous and uncontrollable, it is a huge issue for many with social anxiety disorder. Not everyone with social anxiety blushes and not everyone who blushes has social anxiety. However, for a majority the two do go hand in hand.
The element of surprise can often trigger blushing in people who are pre-disposed to it as a result of their social anxiety. Being put ‘on the spot’ or made the center of attention unexpectedly can have a serious detrimental effect on you. The resultant blushing then further embarrasses you and you wonder what people must think.
Since the physiological responses to blushing are devastatingly real to those who suffer from social anxiety, it is important to note that it is often set off by situations that aren’t rational. Our perception is what causes our response, and not reality. If we view the situation as embarrassing, that determines why we blush, and everyone has his own triggers for when they blush. Some people only blush when made the center of attention in a large group, others may blush even when someone says hello to them. It is this type of strong fear of blushing that often brings it on in very minor social situations, since we are worried and obsessive about it, which causes our brain to focus on blushing. So, you see that worrying about blushing feeds our fear and causes further blushing.
Learning that blushing is just something that happens and will pass is paramount in conquering your fear, and your ANTs. Automatic negative thoughts (ANT) are unfounded, and generally incorrect. Not everyone notices you blush, judges you, and feels poorly about you because of it!
Though not everyone with a blushing problem has social anxiety, it is fairly common that a person has both problems. Blushing is often a physiological effect of the social anxiety, and in order to get the blushing problem under control, working on the social anxiety problem is essential.
People with social anxiety often have difficulties with how they see themselves and how they’re seen by others. In other words, they think they’re just a big mess and everybody knows it, and that everyone is judging them based on this blushing issue. In reality, those things couldn’t be more inaccurate. Most people scarcely notice if someone has a blushing problem, and if they do, they really don’t think much of it. On the other hand, constant fretting over your perceived problem will intensify it.
Constantly having thoughts like:
I must look stupid
That girl must not criticize me
I shouldn’t blush
can definitely contribute to the problem. Most of the time, we have thoughts throughout the day and don’t really even notice them, but when it comes to this issue, people often work themselves into such a state that they cannot control their emotions and their blushing. Those types of thoughts are not only a problem, but they are also inaccurate. Being criticized is a part of life, people just need to learn to deal with it, and blushing does not make anyone look stupid!
Positive affirmations on a daily basis can help to balance out the negative self-talk. However, sufferers need to realize this may take some time, because they are attempting to undo years of negative self-image.